Top 2 Tuesday : Things you’ve learned about Friendship
This post couldn’t have come at a better time! Thanks Tay! I have learned a lot about friendship lately, especially once I had Payton. I became closer with my sister, who has three children and started surrounding myself with ladies who share the same lifestyle. I found that I no longer had anything in common with other friends and started new positive friendships. The two major things I have learned about friendships is that there are two types: sincere and superficial. I have had a new friend come into my life and honestly, I thank my lucky stars that she is my friend. She is a friend that comes over wearing pj’s, where we drink a margarita and drive fifteen minutes to the best donut shop EVER. I can be me, we do not judge eachother, we embrace eachother’s positive and negative sides like real friends should. She has taught me how to be the real me, again. Two things I have learned are that there are:
Sincere Friends…
Know my feelings.
Reveal to me how they feel.
Teach me about myself.
Are comfortable with silence.
Feel free to tell me the truth.
Give me the freedom to fail.
Love me for who I am.
Superficial Friends…
Know only the facts about me.
Tell me what they’ve done.
Tell me about others.
Feel awkward with silence.
Would leave me if I let them down.
Love me for what I can do.
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love it!
So I have a been a long time reader but this is my first time commenting. I love your blog and Payton is absolutely adorable!! I actually found your blog through Jen & Jerome’s blog…I knew Jerome in high school.
Anyways, I love this post! Unfortunately I have found that most of my friends fit in the superficial category and I’m still on the hunt for some sincere ones, although I feel that I found a few through blogging (who knew?!). Thanks for writing this and let’s hope we find more good, sincere, friends to fill up our lives 🙂
I think that if we lack sincere friends, it is also a reflection of who we are as friends to others. Kinda’ like when you dislike something in someone else, its typically a trait you yourself have that you can’t stand. I also feel that even if you have nothing in common with someone- you can still be friends and have a meaningful exchange because the differences shed light on either who you want to/don’t want to be, or who they are- and that’s how we learn about each other and about life. Its also how we grow from each other. To be intolerant of differences, and only look for commonality, does ourselves a disservice. BUT- there is a difference between being different, and being TOXIC. Those are the types of people/friendships we need to avoid! We’ve talked about this in the past, but adult friendships have a different nature to them. They require us to to have more patience, more understanding, more time between visits (and us being okay with that!), and they require us to stop judging ourselves and comparing ourselves to each other. That’s one of the keys to life…is we stop comparing and appreciate what we have and who we are- we are happier people and better friends. We can celebrate each other joys and accomplishments, rather than be envious of them. True friends, great friends and great people, understand that and have the ability to *be* that.
Well said! Such a great post.
great post. I think we all need friends like that in our lives! so happy you have such a sincere friend.
cute blog
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bB